Have any of you played with fire? I sure have. I have a love for it and playing with it. But fire is a dangerous thing and must be treated with care. I respect it. I control it. I mange it. Fire is most useful and fun when it is understood and used properly. If not managed it can get out of control, causing colossal damage and injury. But when correctly managed, it can be a great tool. Over manage it and it will never reach it full potential.
So what does fire have to do with dating? Fire is a tool and in dating there are lots of tools that we can use. I'd like to relate it one of the newest tools, the text. Or txt as I will refer to it. Txting like fire is a tool for the use of people. But to use it effectively you need to understand it, manage it and use it responsibly.
Txting can be a great way to quickly and simply communicate with others. Especially when the content isn't time sensitive or you know one or the other of you can't pick up the phone and talk. But like fire if not understood and used properly it can cause enormousness damage. So here are the rules—guide lines if you rather—for its use.
1. Patience. Just because you send a text and most of the time it gets to the recipient almost instantly, doesn't mean that they are where they can get, read and reply to it. You don't expect to send someone an email and expect to get one back in 20 min do you? Well txts are not phone calls they are mail. If you need an answer this instant call the person. If you need it within a few hours call them. If you can wait a day or don't need a response then txting is okay.
2. Simple. Txting is for short simple messages. If you can't adequately say it in 160 characters don't say it. I know that most companies will let you string together multiple txts. But really you never send a message more then 3 or 4 txts. Rule #1 is 475 characters long. That's 3 txt messages long. If can't say it in 200 characters or less and get your point across then doing txt it. This also means don't try to have meaningful conversations through txting. You just cause misunderstanding and trouble. Txts tend to be over simplified due to their short nature. This means there is a loss of true meaning and emotion.
3. Reality. If you wouldn't do it in person don't do it through a txt. Meaning if you wouldn't call or show up at the guy/girl who you like's place to say good night or good morning don't do it through a txt. You’re shooting yourself in the foot. It's easy because you feel
4. Etiquette. Some things demand common courtesy. Don't break up with people through a txt. If someone calls you call them back or txt them and tell them when you will be available to take their call. It drives me nuts when I call a girl to ask her out, she doesn't answer. Only to have txt me 5 minutes later to say, "What’s up?" I want you to pick up the phone or call me back, since asking you out isn't something that should be done through a txt, is what's up.
These are my 4 main rules to txting and dating. Give them a try. Now that you that you know how to handle txting you shouldn't get burned again.![]()
So what does fire have to do with dating? Fire is a tool and in dating there are lots of tools that we can use. I'd like to relate it one of the newest tools, the text. Or txt as I will refer to it. Txting like fire is a tool for the use of people. But to use it effectively you need to understand it, manage it and use it responsibly.
Txting can be a great way to quickly and simply communicate with others. Especially when the content isn't time sensitive or you know one or the other of you can't pick up the phone and talk. But like fire if not understood and used properly it can cause enormousness damage. So here are the rules—guide lines if you rather—for its use.
1. Patience. Just because you send a text and most of the time it gets to the recipient almost instantly, doesn't mean that they are where they can get, read and reply to it. You don't expect to send someone an email and expect to get one back in 20 min do you? Well txts are not phone calls they are mail. If you need an answer this instant call the person. If you need it within a few hours call them. If you can wait a day or don't need a response then txting is okay.
2. Simple. Txting is for short simple messages. If you can't adequately say it in 160 characters don't say it. I know that most companies will let you string together multiple txts. But really you never send a message more then 3 or 4 txts. Rule #1 is 475 characters long. That's 3 txt messages long. If can't say it in 200 characters or less and get your point across then doing txt it. This also means don't try to have meaningful conversations through txting. You just cause misunderstanding and trouble. Txts tend to be over simplified due to their short nature. This means there is a loss of true meaning and emotion.
3. Reality. If you wouldn't do it in person don't do it through a txt. Meaning if you wouldn't call or show up at the guy/girl who you like's place to say good night or good morning don't do it through a txt. You’re shooting yourself in the foot. It's easy because you feel
4. Etiquette. Some things demand common courtesy. Don't break up with people through a txt. If someone calls you call them back or txt them and tell them when you will be available to take their call. It drives me nuts when I call a girl to ask her out, she doesn't answer. Only to have txt me 5 minutes later to say, "What’s up?" I want you to pick up the phone or call me back, since asking you out isn't something that should be done through a txt, is what's up.
These are my 4 main rules to txting and dating. Give them a try. Now that you that you know how to handle txting you shouldn't get burned again.
